That dude you’re seeing might be OK boyfriend material, but if getting married is your thing, there are some men who you should not exchange vows with. Read on to learn who you should avoid.
THE ONE YOU THINK YOU CAN CHANGE
Whether you think he’s slightly dumb or wish he had a better paying job or want him to lose weight, settling down with a dude you don’t quite feel it for but think you can transform into a better version of himself is a setup. So much of marriage is about accepting and loving your partner unconditionally, and if you come in with a list of things you don’t love, you will always feel like you made the wrong choice.
THE ONE WHO LIKES TO CONTROL YOU
From telling you how to wear your hair to criticizing your cooking skills to shutting you down when you offer an opinion, men who think it’s their job to run your life often turn into partners who think nothing of putting their hands on you when you attempt to go your own way. Steer clear.
The rebel
A lot of women are attracted to the bad boy. There’s just something mysterious and romantic about him. But a lot of times the rebel in society is a rebel in marriage. And pretty soon you’ll find him rebelling against you, too.
The narcissist
Narcissus was an ancient greek mythological figure who was so beautiful that he fell in love with himself — but because he couldn’t leave his own reflection in the water, he eventually drowned. A person who is a narcissist is so convinced of their own greatness that they don’t see their weaknesses. Marrying a narcissist is a very one sided relationship. They’re always trying to vaunt their own greatness — often at the expense of others.
The control freak
Everybody likes to have things their own way. Unfortunately, because men are socialized to express hostility and anger when they don’t get what they want, a man who is a control freak can often become intimidating and even abusive (physically or mentally).
The mama’s boy
You’ve heard that how a man treats his mother is how he’ll treat you. So you look for a guy who is close to his mom and spends a lot of time with her. But be careful, if he’s too close you’ll find yourself married to his mother, too. So you better get used to hearing, “My mom doesn’t do it that way.” And you better get used to his mother being your marriage counselor, too.
The pretty boy
Get used to spending your weekends at the mall looking for new clothes instead of going to soccer practice. But at least you’ll have a great looking house and car (even if you can’t afford it).
The pushover
As mentioned before, everybody likes to have their own way. So when you find a guy who lets you do whatever you want and doesn’t complain about it, you want to grab him up. But after a while you’ll find yourself making all the decisions. And then you’ll find yourself complaining because he doesn’t pull his own weight.
The manly man
This guy talks about sports, beer and hunting all the time. Sure, he’s rugged but you better be prepared to change all the diapers and do all the housework. And forget about him getting you something nice for Valentine’s Day because real men don’t do that mushy stuff.
The fitness freak
Who doesn’t want a guy with chiseled abs and nice arms? But despite all his good (physical) traits you may soon find that the gym is taking up an exorbitant amount of time in your families’ life. And you’ll find yourself using phrases like “did you beat your PR today, honey?’. But more importantly, a man who lets the gym run his life has let the servant become the master and you’ll soon find that he has other priorities out of whack, too.