Having a baby mama may seem to be no problem at all until you start looking for a partner to marry. While there are ladies who really don’t mind dating and even marrying a man with a baby mama, most will not dare. At least that’s the conclusion I arrived at after questioning several women.
We are not saying that having a kid is an issue but we are only saying that having a kid with the wrong person may give you problems later in life. That’s why you should be extremely careful and practice safe sex if you are not having a serious affair with someone. Else, you will end up trapped in a situation that you can’t get yourself out of.
So, we sought to know why ladies were so much against the idea of dating a guy with a baby mama. Check out some of the reasons they gave:
1. Having a baby mama is equivalent to 1000 ways to die
“I once dated a guy with a baby mama and it was hell. So long as they are in constant communication with the baby mama, chances are that they are actually smashing. It’s something I would never try ever again.” One lady said.
2. Chances of getting back together are high
This was something that most women agreed in. Guys use the baby as an excuse to get in contact with the baby mama. And who knows what else they do and discuss when they are together besides the baby?
3. Divided attention
Every woman loves having undivided attention. This is something you will hardly get when you are dating a guy with a baby mama. You are out on a vacation then boom! A call comes from the baby mama and she insists that the kid has been crying demanding to see the daddy. And just like that, the vacation is cut short because anyway, the man needs to be there for his kid.
4. The guy will always have a special connection with the baby mama
“There’s that special connection you get when you both have the first kid together. When you get a kid with a man with a baby mama, it won’t be as special because he has another kid already. Like I would want to have that special connection with my partner but it just can’t happen if he has a baby mama” echoed another.
Another one said that she has no problem with the guy. Even so, she would never forgive herself because she would feel like she is the reason as to why the baby in question can’t be with his daddy.
6. Baby mama drama
Even the women who said they don’t mind dating a guy with a baby mama, they had one condition; there should be no baby mama dramas. But is that even possible? Well, it depends. This was the main reason as to why women said they would never ever think of dating someone with a baby mama.
Imagine you are having a good time and the baby mama calls and they start discussing their kid? Wouldn’t you feel some kinda way? You even feel like the guy is trying to make you jealous while he is only playing his dutiful role as a parent.